Thursday, February 3, 2011

Trying to Understand

Today - is Chinese New Year.  Gong Xi Fa Cai in Mandarin, and Gong Hey Fat Choy in Cantonese.

This is our 3rd Chinese New Year with Cainan.  I cannot believe he has been home for almost 4 years!
 As many of you know, Cainan has not had an easy time with learning.  He struggles on a daily basis with his speech, his ability to understand questions, and his ability to follow a conversation.

To say it is frustrating for all of us would be putting it mildly.  Cainan has a hard time remembering things from minute to minute, let alone day to day.  It took us almost a whole year to teach him the alphabet.  

He doesn't always answer questions correctly - basic things he should know the answer to.  He loses his focus easily and can't remember what we asked him to do.

What does all of this mean?  We aren't sure.  That is what we are trying to understand.  Mat and I feel at a loss of how to help him.  He was in Birth to Three, but missed being in special education from ages 3-5 by 2 points.  2.  We have spent the last year and a half trying our best to help him.
But we just don't know what else to do at this point.  I am actually very glad he will be starting Kindergarten soon, so that he can get the help he needs to succeed.  But Mat and I also wish we had more strategies to understand how to help him be more successful.

Cainan is the sweetest, most loving kid.  He can be extremely funny and insightful at times.  Tonight I caught him singing "Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat" after his bath.  It was the cutest thing ever.  We are so lucky to have such a wonderful kid.  

But with all of our worries with Finley, I just don't want Cainan's needs to get looked over.  With he and Finley both going to Kindergarten next year, and the school so worried about Finley, I need them to take a look at Cainan too.  
 Our little man is so special.  When I think about how great the last 3 1/2 years with him have been, I can't imagine not having him in our lives.  As his mom, I want the best for him.  I want to make his life as easy as possible.  But it is a challenge, and we are still a work in progress.

Cainan - happy Chinese New Year little man.  We love you more than words can say. 

1 comment:

Michelle said...

Such a sweet little face.